How to Give Oral Sex in the Shower Safely and Well

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Water pressure and steam can make oral sex feel more intense than it does on a bed, but only if you control the temperature and footing first.

Why It Works

Warm water dilates blood vessels and raises skin temperature, which increases blood flow to the genitals and heightens sensitivity to touch. Water also muffles sound and removes the body-awareness distractions that often pull attention away from sensation, letting the brain focus on tactile input. The slippery surface and rhythmic spray add stimulation that many people find increases arousal faster than dry contact.

How To Try It

  1. 1. Before getting in, place a non-slip mat or towel on the shower floor and set the water to warm, not hot, so you both stay steady and comfortable.
  2. 2. Have the receiving partner stand with one foot on the tub edge or bench, or sit on a shower stool, to bring the genitals to a comfortable height for the giving partner.
  3. 3. Position the giving partner so the showerhead's spray is angled to the side or behind, keeping water out of the face while still letting warmth reach the thighs and hips.
  4. 4. Start with slow, broad strokes using the lips and flat tongue, then add firmer pressure and rhythm once the receiving partner's breathing changes.
  5. 5. As the receiving partner nears climax, hold the pace steady rather than speeding up, and keep one hand on their hip to anchor them through the release.

Pro Tip

Pro tip: Turn the shower to a lower flow and aim a handheld showerhead at the perineum for targeted warmth, which intensifies sensation without drowning the moment.

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