How to Make Shower Sex and Oral Sex Safer and Better

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The steam and slippery surfaces that make showers feel sensual are the same conditions that can cause falls, burns, and infections if you ignore them.

Why It Works

Warm water dilates blood vessels and relaxes muscle, which lowers inhibition and heightens tactile sensitivity in the skin. Temperature contrast, such as a warm body under a cooler spray or the reverse, activates thermoreceptors and can make touch feel more intense. Because wet skin reduces friction and sensation can feel amplified, a little deliberate control over position and pace keeps the experience pleasurable rather than hazardous.

How To Try It

  1. 1. Put a non-slip mat in the tub or shower and set the water to warm, not scalding, so both partners stay comfortable and alert.
  2. 2. Have the receiving partner brace with one hand on a grab bar or the wall and the other hand on the other partner's hip for balance.
  3. 3. Keep the spray off the face and genitals if it feels overwhelming, angling the showerhead toward the shoulders or back instead.
  4. 4. Move slowly and kneel only on the mat, lowering yourself gradually so neither of you has to hold an awkward or unstable stance.
  5. 5. Pause before any intense motion, breathe together, and then increase pressure and speed as your partner signals they are ready.

Pro Tip

Pro tip: Lightly soap or oil the skin only where you intend to touch, then rinse, since residue on the floor and body makes slips far more likely.

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