How to Use a Dildo to Extend Foreplay

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A dildo lets you maintain arousal while your hands are free to explore other parts of your partner's body.

Why It Works

Penetration activates the vaginal nerve endings and anterior wall sensitivity while your hands stimulate the clitoris, breasts, or other erogenous zones simultaneously. This dual stimulation increases overall arousal and can lead to more intense orgasms. The psychological element of introducing a toy also heightens anticipation and breaks routine.

How To Try It

  1. 1. Start with external stimulation using the dildo along the vulva and clitoris to build arousal before insertion.
  2. 2. Apply plenty of water-based lubricant to both the dildo and the opening to reduce friction and increase comfort.
  3. 3. Insert the dildo slowly while using one hand to stimulate the clitoris in circular motions or figure-eight patterns.
  4. 4. Vary the depth and pace of the dildo while maintaining consistent clitoral stimulation with your other hand.
  5. 5. Increase speed gradually as arousal builds, coordinating both motions to create a rhythm that feels overwhelming.

Pro Tip

Pro tip: Let your partner control the dildo's movement while you focus entirely on clitoral stimulation—this division of labor often produces stronger orgasms than either sensation alone.

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