How to Bring Adventure Back to Your Sex Life in a Long Marriage
After years together, sex can feel predictable—not bad, just routine. The fix isn't complexity; it's intentional curiosity. Here's exactly how to bring adventure back.
Technique — Dr. Bloom Blog
Practical technique guides for couples — foreplay, quickies, new things to try, and how to be more confident and present in bed.
What Men Actually Want in Bed — Beyond the Obvious
Men want presence over performance, genuine desire over obligation, and the safety to be vulnerable. Here's what actually creates satisfaction in the bedroom — and it's not what you've been told.
What Women Wish Their Partners Knew About Sex (But Don't Always Say)
Most women don't say what they want in bed—not because they're shy, but because it feels risky. Here's what she's likely wishing you understood, and how it changes everything.
How to Start Trying New Things in Bed After Years Together
After years together, sex becomes predictable. But wanting to explore isn't a sign your relationship is failing—it's a sign it's ready to grow. Here's how to actually start.
How to Explore Sexual Fantasy Together Without Pressure or Judgment
Most couples never talk about sexual fantasies—not because they don't have them, but because they don't know how. Here's the exact framework for starting the conversation, exploring together, and deepening intimacy without judgment.
Phone Sex for Couples Who've Never Tried It
Phone sex feels awkward in theory, but it's one of the easiest ways to maintain real intimacy when you're apart. Here's exactly how to actually do it—without the cringe.
Video Sex When You're Apart: How to Make It Feel Real
Video sex can feel awkward and performative—unless you approach it as its own thing, not a substitute. Here's how to create genuine connection and real arousal on camera.
Premature Ejaculation and Your Relationship: A Guide for Both Partners
Premature ejaculation affects millions of couples—but most don't know it's entirely treatable with the right approach. Here's how to address it as a team, with practical techniques that actually work and the honest conversations that make real change possible.
The Best Sex Games for Couples to Play at Home
Sex games aren't about novelty—they're about permission. Here are four games that actually work because they build anticipation, reduce shame, and tell you what your partner really wants.
Car Sex: How to Actually Pull It Off Comfortably
Car sex is a common fantasy, but the reality is uncomfortable unless you plan it right. Here's the frank advice on positioning, logistics, and what actually feels good.
How to Use Music to Set the Right Tone (and Why Most Couples Pick Wrong)
Most couples pick the wrong music for sex because they're chasing "sexy" instead of what actually works for their bodies and preferences. Here's how to choose music that actually enhances connection—and why authenticity matters more than atmosphere.
Why Reading Erotica Together Is One of the Best Things Couples Can Do
Reading erotica together isn't about replacing real sex—it's about building honesty, curiosity, and desire into your relationship. Here's why it works, and exactly how to start.
How to Design a Bedroom That Actually Makes You Want Sex
Your bedroom environment shapes desire more than you realize. Here's exactly how to design a space where both partners actually *want* to be intimate—without candles or pretense.
How to Use Food as Foreplay (Without It Getting Weird)
Food and sex don't have to be separate. When done with intention and without the mess, using food as foreplay is one of the easiest ways to build arousal, engage your senses, and deepen intimacy with your partner.
Why Eye Contact During Sex Is So Powerful — and So Uncomfortable
Eye contact during sex triggers oxytocin, forces presence, and strips away performance — which is exactly why it terrifies most couples. Here's why it matters and how to build the capacity for it.
Temperature Play: How Ice and Heat Can Transform Your Sex Life
Temperature play is one of the simplest and most underrated ways to wake up a stale sex life. Learn exactly how to use ice and heat to create real sensation, deeper presence, and genuine novelty in your relationship.
How a Blindfold Changes Everything About Sex
A blindfold doesn't just change sensation—it rewires trust, presence, and vulnerability in the bedroom. Here's what actually happens when you take sight away.
Kitchen Sex: Why Every Couple Should Leave the Bedroom Sometimes
Your bedroom has too much history—conflict, stress, routine. Your kitchen doesn't. Here's why moving sex outside the bedroom might be exactly what your desire needs right now.
Outdoor Sex: How to Do It Without Ruining the Moment or Your Record
Outdoor sex can be genuinely satisfying, but only if you're strategic about location, timing, and consent. Here's how to actually do it safely—without the legal risk or ruined moment.
How to Make Hotel Sex Feel Like a Different Dimension
Hotel sex doesn't have to be a letdown. When you understand what makes hotels actually different—and leverage it—you access arousal and permission you don't get at home.
Shower Sex: How to Make It Actually Good (Not Just a Fantasy)
Shower sex sounds great in theory but often disappoints in reality. Here's exactly how to make it work—with specific positions, practical logistics, and real advice from a couples intimacy coach.
Best Sex Positions for Female Orgasm — Backed by What Actually Works
Most positions don't work for female orgasm—but some do, and it's not magic. Here's what actually delivers results, plus how to use it with your partner.
How to Give an Erotic Massage That Actually Works
Erotic massage isn't about fancy techniques—it's about sustained, intentional touch that actually builds arousal. Here's how to give one that works.
Tantric Breathing Practices That Deepen Physical Connection
Synchronized breathing might sound strange, but it's one of the fastest ways to shift from distracted to deeply present with your partner. Here's how to do it—and why it actually works.
Edging: What It Is and Why Couples Who Try It Keep Coming Back
Edging—the practice of building arousal, backing off, and building again—isn't just intense. It's transformative for couples because it forces presence, deepens communication, and actually rewires how you experience pleasure together.
Sensate Focus: The Exercise That Fixes More Sex Problems Than Anything Else
Sensate focus is the single most effective exercise for fixing desire problems, performance anxiety, and disconnected sex—but almost no one does it right. Here's exactly how to use it and why it actually works.
BDSM for Couples Who Are Curious But Cautious
BDSM doesn't require leather, whips, or a dungeon—just consent, communication, and willingness to start small. Here's the honest framework for curious couples.
Bondage for Beginners: How to Try Restraint Play Safely
Bondage doesn't have to be complicated or risky. Here's exactly how to start restraint play safely, from the conversations you need to have to the gear that actually works.
Roleplay Ideas for Couples That Actually Work in Real Life
Roleplay doesn't have to be cringe or awkward—when done right, it's collaborative storytelling that deepens intimacy. Here's what actually works in real relationships.
How to Be More Dominant in Bed (Without It Feeling Forced)
Dominance in bed isn't a personality type — it's a skill that can be learned, developed, and calibrated for a specific partner. Here's how to actually build it.
How to Have Vacation Sex at Home (Without Going Anywhere)
The sex you have on vacation is better because of the context, not because you're different people. Which means the context is the thing worth recreating. Here's how.
How to Introduce Something New in Bed Without Freaking Your Partner Out
Explore bold strategies for introducing new ideas in bed, transforming awkward moments into exhilarating experiences. Perfect for keeping passion alive!
Why Quickies Are Underrated — And How to Make Them Actually Good
Quickies often get overlooked, yet they can be thrilling and deeply satisfying! Learn how to elevate these brief encounters into moments of genuine connection.
What Great Foreplay Actually Looks Like (Hint: It Doesn't Start in the Bedroom)
Discover the secrets to mind-blowing intimacy that starts well before you hit the sheets. Learn how to create anticipation and connection throughout the day.
What Is Tantric Sex? A Practical Guide for Curious Couples
Tantric sex isn't what most people think it is. Strip away the mysticism and what's left is a set of surprisingly practical ideas about presence, breath, and slowing down.
The Best Sex Positions for Deeper Penetration (and Deeper Connection)
The best sex positions for deeper penetration aren't just about physical depth — they change angle, friction, and how connected you both feel during sex.
How to Give Great Oral Sex — What Actually Makes the Difference
Great oral sex isn't about technique checklists. It's about attention, communication, and being genuinely interested in what's happening in front of you.
How to Have Multiple Orgasms — A Practical Guide for Couples
Multiple orgasms aren't a myth — they're a real physiological possibility that more people can access than realize. Here's what actually makes them happen.
How to Last Longer in Bed (Without Killing the Mood)
Lasting longer in bed isn't about willpower or distraction — it's about learning how your body actually works and making small, deliberate adjustments that change everything.
How to Use Sex Toys With Your Partner Without the Awkwardness
Bringing sex toys into your relationship is less about the toy and more about the conversation. Here's how to make it feel natural rather than like a performance review.
How to Be a Better Lover — What It Actually Takes
Being a better lover isn't about adding more techniques. It's about paying closer attention, being more present, and actually knowing your partner — here's what that looks like in practice.
How to Give a Sensual Massage Your Partner Will Actually Remember
A sensual massage is one of the most effective transitions from daily life into real intimacy. Here's how to give a sensual massage that your partner actually feels — not just on their skin, but in how they experience the connection between you.
Sexual Bucket List Ideas for Couples (And How to Bring Them Up)
The couples who stay sexually connected over years aren't the ones who got lucky with compatibility. They're the ones who kept being curious about each other.
How to Introduce New Things in the Bedroom Without the Awkwardness
Most couples want to try new things. Almost none of them know how to bring it up. Here's how to make that conversation feel natural instead of terrifying.
Foreplay That Actually Works: A Guide for Both Partners
Most foreplay doesn't work because it's treated like a formality — something you do briefly before getting to the real thing. Here's what changes when you treat it as the main event.
How Long Should Sex Last? Here's What Actually Matters
Most couples quietly wonder how long should sex last — and most get the answer wrong. Here's what research actually says, and why the number matters far less than what happens during that time.
How to Have Mind-Blowing Sex in Under 10 Minutes
Ten minutes is enough time to make your partner's knees weak — if you use it correctly. Here's exactly what separates forgettable fast sex from the kind you're still thinking about at dinner.
5 Low-Key Ways to Spice Things Up (Without Feeling Weird)
You don't need props, a dramatic reveal, or a wellness retreat to make your sex life more interesting. These five low-key approaches create real momentum without anyone feeling weird about it.
Right There. Don't Move.
Better orgasms aren't about more intensity or longer sessions. They're about staying exactly where you are when something is working — and learning to say the four words that make all the difference.
Sex During Pregnancy: What's Normal, What's Great, What to Avoid
Sex during pregnancy is safe—but it's also different. Here's exactly what changes, what stays the same, and how to keep intimacy alive when your body feels like it's not yours.